The holidays used to be a cherished time at Mom’s house, a tradition that held a priority over other engagements. Yet, as dementia has shifted her perspective, the joy once associated with these festivities has dimmed. Buying a gift for her, once a challenging yet meaningful task, now carries a different weight.
Mom's preferences have become elusive, her engagement with the holiday spirit fading into vapors of memory. Though the excitement may have waned, the dedication to including her remains. Despite her disinterest in the festivities or awareness of the significance of the day, the act of inclusion persists.
The search for suitable gifts has become a journey of trial and error. From realistic baby dolls to specialized fidget pads and puzzles tailored for those with dementia, each present carries the hope of sparking a glimmer of connection. Wrapping them in elaborate paper and bows isn’t just for aesthetics; it's a gesture aimed at maintaining her engagement, however fleeting it might be.
In the absence of her active participation, the commitment to ensuring she's not left out stands strong. These gifts, though they might not receive the anticipated reception, serve a deeper purpose—they are tokens of love, reminders of her importance, and small attempts to bridge the gap between the present and the cherished memories of holidays past.
As a caregiver, navigating this new terrain of holiday gifting involves more than just selecting presents. It's a testament to the unwavering commitment to preserving the sense of belonging and inclusion, even in moments when the connection feels fragile.
Remembering that the true gift lies not in the tangible item, but in the intangible— the love, effort, and determination to ensure that despite the changes, Mom remains an integral part of the holiday spirit.
Happy Holidays to you and your loved ones.
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